Keep your cool
- No one can do everything to prepare for a holiday gathering without getting testy. Call on friends, family and perhaps paid help to assist with preparing the home or making arrangements for activities. It may be worth what you save in frayed feelings.
- Vow to make the best of the holidays, enjoying the good moments and rolling with the disappointments. Lost tempers can ruin what may be some of the person’s best, last memories.
- Reduce the potential for conflict by preparing others for what to expect over the holidays. If there has been a significant decline in your loved one since their last contact, let them know.
- Try to anticipate the AD person’s physical needs. For instance, if trips to the bathroom require assistance, plan in advance. Don’t be disappointed if the AD person becomes fatigued in the middle of an occasion; arrange for them to rest or retire early, if that is their preference.
- Stay focused on the positive and connect with others; holiday gatherings are often great opportunities to deepen close relationships and express your gratitude. As well as providing a warm experience for the AD person, tap into the socializing and down time from work to recharge your own batteries.